Monday, October 4, 2010

On Control

I have been hearing a lot lately that the idea we are in control is an illusion...

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My counselor has told me on several occasions, wanting control is actually the opposite of loving someone (Yes, Sting was right when he said, "If you love someone, set them free...")

-God teaches us very clearly how to love. He loves us so much he has given us our free will. If God loves us enough not to control us why do we have the need to control others?

-When is the notion we are not in control going to fully sink into our brains and how long will it take us to break the habit of wanting control?


-Letting go of our need to control is much like letting go of our pride. We have to offer it up on a continual basis as it is not something that is taken permanently from us. God just patiently waits for us to cry out for help so He can lovingly show us He has had the reins all along...

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Not being in control sucks at times but hanging on to illusion that we will determine the outcome sucks even more...

Sadly, most of us will learn we are not in control when something unfortunate or terrible happens in our lives. Our goodness does not prevent our sufferings. Look at Job. He was as good as we get and he experienced great loss and suffering and continued to praise God...

Job 1:6-22

One day, when the angels of God came to present themselves before the LORD,
Satan also came among them.
And the LORD said to Satan, "Whence do you come?"
Then Satan answered the LORD and said,
"From roaming the earth and patrolling it."
And the LORD said to Satan, "Have you noticed my servant Job,
and that there is no one on earth like him,
blameless and upright, fearing God and avoiding evil?"
But Satan answered the LORD and said,
"Is it for nothing that Job is God-fearing?
Have you not surrounded him and his family
and all that he has with your protection?
You have blessed the work of his hands,
and his livestock are spread over the land.
But now put forth your hand and touch anything that he has,
and surely he will blaspheme you to your face."
And the LORD said to Satan,
"Behold, all that he has is in your power;
only do not lay a hand upon his person."
So Satan went forth from the presence of the LORD.

And so one day, while his sons and his daughters
were eating and drinking wine
in the house of their eldest brother,
a messenger came to Job and said,
"The oxen were ploughing and the asses grazing beside them,
and the Sabeans carried them off in a raid.
They put the herdsmen to the sword,
and I alone have escaped to tell you."
While he was yet speaking, another came and said,
"Lightning has fallen from heaven
and struck the sheep and their shepherds and consumed them;
and I alone have escaped to tell you."
While he was yet speaking, another messenger came and said,
"The Chaldeans formed three columns,
seized the camels, carried them off,
and put those tending them to the sword,
and I alone have escaped to tell you."
While he was yet speaking, another came and said,
"Your sons and daughters were eating and drinking wine
in the house of their eldest brother,
when suddenly a great wind came across the desert
and smote the four corners of the house.
It fell upon the young people and they are dead;
and I alone have escaped to tell you."
Then Job began to tear his cloak and cut off his hair.
He cast himself prostrate upon the ground, and said,

"Naked I came forth from my mother's womb,
and naked shall I go back again.
The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away;
blessed be the name of the LORD!"

In all this Job did not sin,
nor did he say anything disrespectful of God.

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